James Wilcox
A master of whatever is required by the day! A high school social studies teacher, published author, father of 3, stay home Mr. Mom during the summer and being an attentive husband are just a few things that keep James on his toes. In his spare time James is a writer and photographer. Before returning to school for his Master's Degree in Education James was a photo journalist for the Independence Examiner. James is active in FIRE (Foundation for Inclusive Religious Education) and is actively involved at the CCVI (Children's Center for the Visually Impaired). He is also busy learning braille with his son Nathan who lives with the effects of ROP, Nathan was a micro-preemie who was born at 24 weeks gestation. James and his family live in Kansas City. To Read about James' book, "Sex, Lies and the Classroom," or order your own copy, visit JamesPWilcox.com
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Explaining Sacrifice
by: James Wilcox
published on: 2/20/2010 12:00:00 AM
For about a week now, I have been trying to explain what a sacrifice is to my boys. Both of them have been concerned about what they should “give up” for Lent, with ideas ranging from Braille class to taking a bath. Some of their ideas have been made in jest, while others have been serious. I appreciate the fact that they want to “give up” something for Lent, but I also want them to understand that this is an opportunity for them to get better, to improve themselves, to recognize that by “giving up” something they may actually be making a change for the better.
After numerous conversations, we finally decided that my oldest son would “give up” complaining about homework (he really doesn’t like homework and lets me know about it each and every day). In an effort to help him reach this goal, my wife and I decided to place a “nickel jar” on the dinner table. Every time he complains about homework, he has to drop a nickel from his piggy bank into the jam. He will then have to donate all the nickels collected through Lent to a charity.
My youngest son finally decided that he would “give up” yelling when he is frustrated (he really wanted to give up his Braille classes, but mom and dad didn’t give him that option). He also has a “nickel jar” to help encourage him meet his goal.
While both boys have decided to “give up” something, they are both “sacrificing” a behavior they need to give up anyway. Is this really making a sacrifice? I am not sure, but the house has definitely been quieter and homework time more bearable. So far, the “nickel jars” are empty.
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